A woman who has been married to her husband for 9 years with 2 kids has taken to the inbox of Ghanaian relationship coach, David Bondze-Mbir to voice out an issue disturbing her marriage.
According to the lady, she earns a salary of GHS3,500 monthly and her husband earns around GHS4,000. For that. matter, they may not be too rich but all is well with them and they’ve been a happy couple.
But all of a sudden, the man started changing his attitude. On top of it all, he started introducing some weird sex positions and he also started spending anyhow unlike first where he used to be very careful about his expenses.
All these caused the woman to start suspecting the man. So she placed surveillance on him and followed him secretly to one big house.
It was there that she got to know what her husband has been up to.
Read her full story below:
I started documenting some unusual changes in my husband. The first for me were the lots of new styles and things he introduced in our sex life.
I do not mind adventure in sex but this sudden need to try these new things with me in the bedroom, things that were never our thing before got me alarmed.
I used to enjoy having unnecessary arguments with him and joke about things that weren’t really funny and laugh about them. I can’t get my husband to fight over our unnecessary arguments anymore.
Our funny jokes are no longer funny to him. He’s been working longer and longer hours at work lately, and he is critical of the little things he would have overlooked in the past. He picks on fights with me and that was not him.
We do not communicate much lately, though he forces to be attentive than usual. I was feeling uncomfortable about the changes so I asked him if he was having an affair.
He became so defensive and his responses were unsatisfactory to me. I used to trust his word but it’s becoming difficult for me to believe him, so I had him followed.
I got information of where he goes and visited the place one afternoon on a weekend when my source alerted me he was going there. I went to the house, a very big house.
I talked to the security and explained why I had to be there. I showed proof my husband was the man in there. I entered the main house and begged the house keeper to allow me save my marriage.
Dave, it wasn’t an easy process convincing these people without implicating them and the security of their jobs. I was directed to the bedroom, and my husband was having sex with the man’s wife while he watched.
The woman’s husband was paying my husband to watch him sleep with his wife.
I forgot to say this, my husband has been getting anything the children would request for them. I realized he has been getting thigs for the house and even talking about getting our children private study in the Covid 19 pandemic.
He is a hardworking man, but I saw a change in his spending. He can afford lately. He used to be careful with money. But now he can really afford.
We sometimes eat out, he buys me gifts, etc etc. He’s been begging me to understand why he is doing what he is doing. His apology is not even about stopping what he is doing, but for me to understand that it’s to secure our finances as a family.
Dave, my husband is not unemployed. His legal job pays him over 4000.
I earn 3500 from my employers. We have two children. We do not lack, Dave. We have a decent family and I liked it like it was. My husband is a wonderful man and I love him so much. What should I do? We’ve been married for 9 yrs